People come to counselling for many different reasons and I believe that by talking to someone who will listen and respond to you as an individual, without discrimination or judgement, you can begin to feel less alone with your problems and work towards tackling the issues that are making you unhappy. I can share with you that I am dedicated to your well-being and to identifying the path to get you to your best you and create the best life!
Our time together will be completed either face-to-face in the office, outdoors during walk and talk therapy sessions, via various different online platforms or over the telephone. The frequency of sessions will be driven by your counselling needs.
Many people want to know, “how long will I need to be in counselling?” This question is generally difficult to answer, some people will get what they need from counselling with just a few sessions whilst others require support over a longer period of time.
At the very beginning of therapy, we will draw up a therapeutic contract. If you only wish to have a few sessions, we will talk about what we can realistically achieve during that time. That might mean focussing on particular issues and not on others. I tell most people that if you want to see sustainable results, it is best to plan on committing to at least six sessions together. Again, people are different, so their counselling journeys will be different.
Our work is very intentional and designed to get you the results you desire.
While counselling is unique for everyone, there are some common things you can expect from counselling:
- Initial sessions- exploration – Here my aim is to begin to get to know you and understand why therapy and why now? We may assess your needs and whether there is any potential risk.
- Things may get worse before they get better –Clients often expect to feel better straight after walking out of their first session, whilst this may be true for some it may be the complete opposite for the rest of you. It is often necessary to open old wounds, explore scary experiences, and confront difficult thoughts and feelings.
- Things can get complicated and confusing – At the outset, this is often true. Not everything about a certain event or situation has been said, information may not have been processed, understood or accepted. Nothing is linear at this stage.
- Collaboration – The relational aspect is by far the most important part of this work everything has to be worked through together in order to get you the most out of your sessions. If you don’t like something, you can change it. If you want something specific, you can ask for it. If you want to change focus, you can.
- I cannot advise you on what to do- I am not the expert in your life, you are. I would encourage you to take responsibility for yourself during all times, ensuring there is a willingness to make positive changes. We can explore different options together, I can offer suggestions or we can look at signposting you to some helpful services/resources to better support you.
- There is no magic wand – Sometimes we all have to go through the motions of our experiences and feel some intense and distressing feelings. I believe this can be an important part of healing and recovery.